Because We Knew You

The tinkling of the chimes, the voices of women glorious, the light streaming brilliant through the magnificient stained glass windows of the Cathedral. The church bells as they struck somber at exactly 11am, the pain felt as the casket came into view.

The music was pure and perfect, just as she would have wanted; Karen’s cymbals and Diane’s keys. The classy hot pink scarves placed perfectly upon black garments, the hope in the face of darkness. The quiet, brief interlude of Glory of Love, reminscent of Beaches and the tears I cried when I was so young. I remember not being able to fathom how I would ever live without my best friend, knowing how those closest to Chris were facing that now.

The solists had incredible poise and without a tear delivered the most incredible performances, capturing hearts, as Chris often did, time and time again. For those of us not able to be there in person, gratefully watching from all over the county, 450 viewers and increasing as it went. Hearts, tears and hug emojis poured out as if we were all there together in person. The incredible duet of “For Good” from Wicked, said exactly what we all felt. “Because I knew you, I have been changed for good.” And the small, subtle embrace at the end by these two incredible singers showcased the simplicity of how we must be there for each other through this incredibly difficult time.

By watching Chris over the years, we learned that you practice until you get it right. You project. You enunciate. You glorify. You stand with poise. You exude the pride and the honor from which you came. You show how proud yet humbled you are to be there.You are representing a generation of women who accomplish great feats and who share their gifts with the world for good. Chris influenced the entire Bay View sisterhood, whether you worked on those shows or not. We are all leaders in our own way because of her. We all shared in her magic. Whether on the stage, behind the curtain or in the audience, we all are better for her gifts.

The ending of this funeral was pure inspiration. Her son brilliantly delivered an incredible eulogy of all that was fantastic about his mom. His stories of humor and love showcased a woman who was multidimential in all the best ways. Chris was brought back down the aisle accompanied by the glory and percussion of “Let the River Run” which was the most triumphant exit I have ever witnessed at a funeral mass. Those who spoke of her throughout the mass referenced her light. “We should all be shining lamps, giving light to all those around us.” Dostoevsky’s quote “Beauty will save the world” will live long in our hearts.

To me personally, Chris left a legacy of an incredibly deep love and appreciation of music and lyrics. Certain songs have shepherded me through my greatest days and my darkest nights. Today, I sit with the beauty and simplicity of “The Glory of Love”. Mrs. Kavanagh’s life was a model of putting love at the center of all you do. In the movie Beaches, Bette Midler reminisces about her lost friend. “This is a song I’ve been singing for a long time. It’s like an old friend. But, you know, I think it, it’s only recently that I discovered what it’s really about.”

“You’ve got to give a little, take a little,
and let your poor heart break a little.
That’s the story of, that’s the glory of love.

You’ve got to laugh a little, cry a little,
until the clouds roll by a little.
That’s the story of, that’s the glory of love.

As long as there’s the two of us,
we’ve got the world and all it’s charms.
And when the world is through with us,
we’ve got each other’s arms.

You’ve got to win a little, lose a little,
yes, and always have the blues a little.
That’s the story of, that’s the glory of love.
That’s the story of, that’s the glory of love.”

We’ll miss you dearly Mrs. K, but we’ll carry on your love.

Published by Lisa Rocha Gubernick

My name is Lisa Gubernick. I have been working in the business world for the past twenty four years and I truly enjoy the career that I have built. I am also a wife and mother of two. Outside of those responsibilities, I take every opportunity I can to learn and to create. Those activities truly fuel my soul and ensure my well being. If you are anything like me, you often reflect on the human experience and what it means to make a positive contribution everyday. My goal is to leave this world in a better place than I found it through my writing.

2 thoughts on “Because We Knew You

  1. “Because We Knew you” Mrs. K…. what a wonderful tribute that stirred my heart to join her legacy of keeping love alive. I also love you blog and your goal of leaving the world a better place that you found it. Keep going. You are valued! I did not know Mrs K but I did attend the academy she devoted her love and her talents to for so long. St Marys Academy has a culture of love and dedication and the school also demonstrates love and nurturing.


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