Living in the Clouds of “Shoulds”

‘Expectations are resentments waiting to happen.” -Brene Brown Something on which I am spending a lot of time in therapy discussing is my expectation hangover from my childhood. For those of you unfamiliar with this term, it refers to the disappointment one experiences when your reality does not match your fantasy. I grew up watchingContinue reading “Living in the Clouds of “Shoulds””

6 Ways to Keep Your Vacation Alive

Returning from vacation is always bittersweet. You have the amazing memories you’ve created while away, but you also face harsh reality when you get back to your normal life as you know it. The pressures of work, family and duty can drain you quickly of all that relaxation you are trying so desperately to keepContinue reading “6 Ways to Keep Your Vacation Alive”

I Am My Scars

“I am not a stranger to the dark Hide away, they say ‘Cause we don’t want your broken parts I’ve learned to be ashamed of all my scars Run away, they say No one’ll love you as you are” -From The Greatest Showman, “This is Me” by Justin Paul and Benj Pasek If you haven’t seen The GreatestContinue reading “I Am My Scars”

Something to Hide

I often talk about my experience in therapy over the last year and a half because I still believe that there is a huge social stigma associated with it. I believe that many of society’s current issues come from our culture of burying everything that is “real” and creating an elaborate front that everything isContinue reading “Something to Hide”

Are You Happy?

“It is by going down into the abyss that we recover the treasures of life. Where you stumble, there lies your treasure.” -Joseph Campbell For anyone who has known me well, and over a significant period of time, you know that I have never allowed myself to be truly happy. I have been an extraordinaryContinue reading “Are You Happy?”

Mirror Mirror

As many of you know, I have spent 45 minutes, once a week, over the last year and a half, on a therapist’s couch. Those collective hours have been tremendously helpful in leading me towards a full and complete understanding of myself. I will forever shout at the top of any mountain that everyone onContinue reading “Mirror Mirror”

Don’t Underestimate Me

“You’re not that smart, you just work hard.” -Sister Mary Ann to me in the first grade. On the website, http://www.simplypsychology.org, Saul McLeod discusses Carl Rogers’ (1959) belief that self concept has three different components: the view you have of yourself (self image), how much value you place on yourself (self esteem or self-worth), [and] what youContinue reading “Don’t Underestimate Me”